Today I had a conversation with a couple young girls about haters and why they hate you or why they hate what you have. Haters hate you because they don’t have what you want. It’s not that they can’t have what you have but they don’t want to work for it. They just want it handed to them. In my eyes all a hater sees is your success. What they fail to see is what it took you to become successful. They don’t see the hundreds of time you have failed x 100. They don’t see the extra hours of work you put in when no ones looking. They don’t see the nights you may have cried yourself to sleep because you failed so many times and don’t believe you will ever make it. They don’t see you pick yourself up after failing and fail again. They don’t see all the times you turn down your friends to go do stuff so that you can work on your craft. What they see is your success and they want that. But until they put in the work that you have and failed over and over and over again they will just always be haters. Embrace the haters because haters make you want to be more successful. They are fuel for your fire. Haters are always going to hate. Let them spend time hating while you are spending time getting better. But don’t stop putting in the work after you have become successful because those that do fall even harder. You are going to fail multiple times in your life. It is a learning lesson and is a must to make you better. So keep your head up, keep putting in the work, keep getting stronger and keep failing no matter who hates. And remember, “hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard!”
Stay positive my friends.
Here is what I have come to realize from my experiences and learning from others about “making it.”
When you feel you have become great or feel you are on top of your industry or sport or you feel you have “made it” you must stay humble! You must remember the hard work it took to get there, the everyday grind, every practice, every meeting, every early morning or late night, your work ethic. When you get to the point that you feel you have “made it” that’s actually where it all begins. If you think you can change your work ethic, change your hustle, change your grind or your mindset and still remain at the top, you’re wrong! You have to hustle more, work harder, practice longer, work longer and grind more than you ever did. Once you get complacent and let your accomplishments become bigger than you are, once you forget about what it took to get there and you start allowing yourself to slack because you “made it” that’s when you lose it all. That’s when it all starts falling apart and all those years of hard work are gone and you are back to where you started. Don’t fall victim to the mindset of I “made it.”
That leaves me with one last point. Don’t forget who helped you get there. Your family, your coaches, your leaders, your teachers, your mentors, your friends and the faith that you believe in. If you work hard at what you are passionate about, you will “MAKE IT!” #begrateful
Stay humble my friends!
Life is an everyday grind. The cards you are dealt do not determine your path, your outcome, your production to society, your giving back and it sure doesn’t determine the person you are going to be. So pick yourself up, keep your head up and push through the struggle. You’ve got this!
Each day I scan twitter to find positive tweets tweeted by the people I follow. I general read every one of them and try to find a way that they reflect me, my family or my current situation. It’s not that I need the motivation or lacking self-worth, well sometimes I do, but more of just a checkup from the neck up for me. It also allows me to pass those readings on to my son and daughter and others that I come in contact with. I know that reading and applying them makes me feel good and does give me extra motivation and if I can pass that on to others and only one person gets anything out of it, then I feel what I am doing is a good thing. People can go through incredibly harsh situations in life and others around them have no clue what they are going through. A little inspiration/motivation to someone from someone else, can go along way. #foodforthought
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. -Dr. Wayne Dyer